On this journey, I’ve finally reached a point where I can let others be who they are without letting it disrupt my peace.

I’m not saying that I no longer get upset and want to cuss people (my boyfriend) the fuck out. Because I do… trust. 

However, I understand that in life, everyone around me is existing in their own version of reality. Things won’t always flow or happen the way I’d prefer.

For someone like me who has struggled with control, coming to terms with this has been no small feat. I’ve always felt like I had to be in control of things, people, and places.

It was a form of self-protection, making sure I felt safe and comfortable in anything concerning my life. 

But what I didn’t realize was that I was also trying to control others through my

expectations of how they *should* show up for me, and sometimes even for the world.

I didn’t recognize it as control. I just called it organization, preparedness, being responsible, being on the “right track” (to what or where? I didn’t really know).

But now? If I don’t like the environment, I simply remove myself. I no longer have the desire to expend energy explaining the why and how. If I’m the one with the issue, then it’s on me to find the resolution.

Because from experience, the only thing that happens is a bunch of back and forth about something that’s bound to happen again.

I still believe in communication. I’m a communicator through and through. But the truth is, most people think they’re good at communication when they’re not. And when concerns, dislikes, or hard truths are brought to the table, it’s often received as attack instead of clarity. If I know someone equates communication with conflict, I’m not wasting my energy. 

At some point, I had to decide: What’s more important being right, or being at peace?

I now choose peace. Every time.

Yeah, in the moment I might be pissed, annoyed, or aggravated. But once I remove myself and process those emotions, I always feel better than when I react.

I’ll take 15 minutes of upset over letting my entire day or week spiral into chaos. 

And honestly? There are just some things I’m above participating in at this point in my life. And I don’t care how it’s taken.

Yeah- I’m better than that. And whoever takes issue with that should explore *why.*

I’m doing the hard work of growing, healing, and becoming. Why would I still be dancing with outdated versions of people and places that no longer match my frequency?

I’ve evolved. I’m a new, expanded version of myself. Why would I stay in a 2-bedroom house, when my soul now requires an estate?

Don’t let people guilt you into shrinking just because they’re afraid to expand. It’s okay to outgrow people, places, and things. Trust me – there is more peace and joy on the other side of letting go.

Go be free.

Let go of what no longer serves you.

You’ll be amazed at the version of yourself that’s waiting beneath it all.